Marriage Advice

The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your MateMarriage advice is everywhere from how to save your marriage to how to keep the spark alive in your marriage. Is there a secret to keeping you marriage alive or once its dead is it dead. Have lost that feeling for the other person. I will not pretend to be an expert, but I can speak from my experience in my marriage and what I have found to work for me.

What makes my marriage advice valuable to anyone who wants to listen to it. Well let me first start by saying that I am married so I do have some experience in this area. We have also been together since we were 16 and 17 and we are now 40 and 41 that’s 24 years together with 4 children and have been through almost everything that you can go through in a marriage.  I would also like to say that over the years I have learned a thing or two about what keeps your marriage together and what makes for a happier and more fulfilling marriage.

First of all I would like to dis spell the myth that you fall in love and then live happily ever after like in most fairy tales you read. It should be that you fall in love than through commitment and hard work you live happily every after. Marriage is work and if you are not committed to it and are willing to work on it each and everyday your marriage will eventually fall apart.

Marriage Advice

Tip # 1 Be Committed

Your first step in having a successful marriage is you have to be committed to having a successful marriage. This doesn’t mean that if something happens or things get a little rough you through in the towel and call it quits on the marriage. Just remember your wedding vows, I do believe there was something in there about being committed to the other person without any stipulations. Most marriages will fail because people just are not committed to each other anymore.

Tip #2 Communicate

You have to learn to communicate to each other to have successful marriage. It is hard to know what the other person wants, desires or needs if you don’t communicate it to them in a polite and understandable way. Ex: My wife use to want me to help out more around the house because she needed that from me. But she never told me this she just expected me to know this or thought that I could read minds. I could read her mood when she wasn’t happy but she never just told me what she wanted and sometimes that is all it takes to get what you want out of the relationship with proper communication.

Tip #3 Time Together

Spending quality time together can be one of the most rewarding things you can do to keep your marriage in tacked. This means spending time together, just the two of you with no kids, pets, friends or any other obligations or interruptions. This also means not sitting in front of the television together because that is not really quality time. Me and my wife spend time going out for dinner, movies, walk or just going for a drive or a coffee together so we can talk and reflect on our lives together. We also like to spend the night out a few time a year just to enjoy our time with each other.  You can lose track of each other after dealing with everyday stress in life. Time together really helps us reconnect.

Tip #4 Understanding Differences

To really have a great marriage you have to understand that the other person is different than you are. This is such a hard concept for some people to get because the think that because you are in love you understand and know what the other person needs. We usually will give our partner the things that we want and need in the relationship and this is natural. The only thing is that most times your spouse may want or need something totally different from what you need from the marriage. Understanding and talking about your partners needs and then being able to fulfill those needs will help your marriage become much stronger. It’s really hard to complain when you are getting exactly what you want from your marriage.

These are just a few tips that you can use to build and have a good marriage. But if you want to keep your marriage strong there are some great books that you can read that can really help you in this area. Two of the best books that I have read on marriage advice are The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate By: Gary Chapman and His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage By: Willard F. Harley, Jr. I got a lot of tips and marriage advice from both these books to help me have a better marriage.

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His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage

For over 15 years, this insightful best seller has helped couples meet each other’s most important needs and reignite their romance….


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Marriage works only when each spouse takes the time to consider the other’s needs and strives to meet them. In His Needs, Her Needs, Willard Harley identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses.

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In The Five Love Languages, Dr. Gary Chapman talks about how different people express love in different ways. Some people are verbal, expressing their love in words. Others may never speak their affection, yet they show it by the things they do.
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